There is so much bundled up in the 1Corinthians 13. I have faced some true revelation in this sentence lately “…but if I don’t have Love, I have Nothing.”
Think about it. How many times a day are we expressing our opinions about how others live life, respond to life and make decisions. Sometimes we listen and give advise. Let’s face it, sometimes we just give advise with out listening.
Have you ever stopped and really thought about where your thoughts about someone or even where your advise is coming from. We often say “I am saying this… out of Love” but are you really? Does it truly pain you to see someone hurting? Or does their actions just bother or frustrate you?
It’s time to truly embrace the fact that it’s not about you. It’s not about how this person makes you feel. It’s not about how much they’ve hurt you. It’s not about how frustrated you are. It’s not about you at all. And if you can’t keep from adding in these emotions and details then you are not in a place to advise. Matter of fact it’s about time you turn the focus on yourself and ask God to reveal why someone else’s actions or words have that much affect on you. Jesus came to bring peace and rest. Are you living in the peace and rest regardless of other people’s actions?
What would it look like if we zipped our lip until we could honestly say we were speaking out of a true place of Love?
How do you know you are responding out of love?
When you can speak about the situation with peace and rest, then you are in a good position to speak and advise someone out of love. If you can not speak about the situation with out getting emotional, frustrated, elaborate, animated and/or angry then you should opt to zip it.
So if you don’t have Love…then let’s just make a decision today to shhhhhh. Start seeking God for your own Peace and pray for a heart of Love towards others. Pray to see them from Gods eyes. Pray that God reminds you to hush when any unwholesome words may pass your lips. Like I tell my kids. If you are not going to say something that builds someone up then choose to smile and say I don’t know but I know I love you.