Gossip…is murder

Every woman & every man has experienced and/or has been a participant and/or victim of this evil activity. Myself included. I have come to understand Gossip in it’s true form…is a killer. Do you remember playing the whisper game as a child? One person whispers a word or phrase into another’s ear and they turn to the next and whisper that into the next and so on and so forth until the last available person hears the whisper and repeats aloud for all to hear. 99% of the time the phrase or word was so far off from what the initial person relayed everyone laughs out of pure unbelief. This childish game fits the exact storyline of every whisper that is told that has nothing to do with the story teller aka Gossip session. Unfortunately it still becomes comedy show because who are you fooling, it’s not about you, so why not laugh at someone else’s expense. So let’s talk about why it’s murder.

Murder is a premeditated action by someone toward a specific target. This end of life or last breath outturn gives life to the attackers justification.

1. Premeditated. There are 2 ways to gossip. You see something and repeat it or the second you hear something 2nd hand or further and repeat it. Either one you have full thought process to take in what happened, process it as a priority in your mind & a have a conscience desire to find someone to repeat it to. What is funny about priorities there is no such thing! The word is actually PRIORITY. You can only have ONE priority. When you make someone else’s business your own priority you have chosen to take other things in your life and put them on the back burner. Yes you have chosen to plan to Gossip, premeditated by prioritizing this other persons business as your priority.

2. Target. Most people Gossip about someone they know. This someone most of the time reveals a characteristic or lifestyle that makes the gossiper feel inadequate. That’s why people say gossipers are jealous. This has become the easiest way to explain a gossiper, but it runs deeper than jealousy. It’s a specific quality or set of qualities in that person that makes them a target. Most gossipers don’t talk about everyone, just people that make them feel inadequate, insecure or inferior.

3. Justice. The fact that a gossiper has to spend extreme mindshare to think of their target in such a way as to attempt to alter other people’s opinion of them takes tons of effort & time. The goal is to tell a story in such a way as to belittle & ridicule these or this individual and get other people to agree. This therefore brings joy and also justice for the gossipers feelings of inadequacy, insecurity and inferiority.

If you are a victim reading this just know you are not alone. Although it doesn’t make you feel any better this might. Being a victim of gossip essentially means you have caught the attention of many people including your attacker. You’ve done something to be recognized. Your beautiful, successful, bright, exciting, loud, lively, confident, determined, sexy & a whole lot more. Be proud of who you are. The saying is so true and I love it. “Haters are going to Hate” so let them and keep being you.

Now I do recommend finding ways to protect yourself.

1. Block unneeded people from your life. Living in a day of social media and life broadcast you can minimize yourself in their eyes with a simple block from all of your social media sites. They can’t talk about what they can’t see and the more effort they have to put into digging into your life the less you will see them.

2. Stop justifying what you do. Do not feel like you have to give anyone a reason for taking any actions in your own life. I have learned the more I keep to myself the safer my heart is. “No.” Is a complete sentence.

3. Define an inner circle. Find your select few friends that are your “inner circle” and keep it small. Spend more time alone & with these few people. This will clear your mind & allow your thoughts to guide you instead of reacting to others or constantly having to mine through all the opinions people throw at you.

PS: once you block someone NEVER unblock them.

If you are a gossiper, attacker, murder. Realize you are insecure and if you spend more time on yourself you may find something worth focusing on.

Peek into Worship

 

Recently I came to realize that “Worship” doesn’t mean the same to everyone. It is not that people do not want it to mean the same thing. It is that they only get what they know. They only know what they experience. They only experience what they have been introduced to.

I have been a worshiper since 2009 when I met Jesus. I did not grow up knowing and understanding who Jesus was at all. I knew that there was God and God created man and people went to church on Sundays. Although I didn’t go to church regularly I knew God created me.

I did find myself praying, however. My grandmother introduced my brother and me to prayer as children. Although prayer was never a constant in my life as a child, it was my absolute go-to when my life was disrupted or I felt alone.

I will not go into my entire salvation story today. My point in referencing this is that I literally was brought to my knees by the holy spirit and began following Jesus because Jesus opened my eyes (at the age of 26). I talked to God from then on. I learned how relational He was and the one way to connect with him was through worship. Worship through singing, through silence and listening and through dancing. By no means was I a great singer or dancer. I began to realize the more I let go and didn’t care whether what I was singing or how I sounded or whether I had any rhythm to my movement, the more I connected with the Holy Spirit. That “Peace and Joy that surpasses all understanding” is absolutely what I experienced.

Worship is what we were created for.

We are always trying to find peace and joy through our own means. We come up with things we want to do or be involved in thinking we will find complete happiness and fulfillment. Upon completion or even halfway through we only find ourselves lacking desired results.

Why do you think this is? Why do you think we can see the light at the end of the tunnel believing and thinking we have found our calling only to find ourselves at the starting line again?

I believe that when we connect with God relationally and intimately through worship that he teaches us things that are beyond our natural abilities to comprehend. That the fulfillment is in a spiritual place and our minds are far too immature to grasp it. When we make this connection consistent we are filled, fulfilled & walking in peace and joy consistently.

Welcome to walking into one of the first things you will not grasp until you experience. That is the way God works. We shouldn’t expect anything less from a God that is so wonderful.

God, I thank you for the people reading this. I thank you that their hearts are desiring to know you more and to know themselves more…the way you created them. I pray a release of your holy spirit into their lives through worship. I pray they find worship in silence, singing, dancing, writing, painting, drawing and any other creative area you place on their heart. I pray an awakening of their spirit and a fire in their heart to know you more. I pray this in your precious son Jesus name Amen.

A New Definition of Love

Love is one of those things that are crucial in life and so it only makes sense that we understand it more.

We grow up ready to fight for what we believe is fact later to learn that we may not know what we think we know. Truth is so hard to find in the world. Which is why I quit looking in the world for truth and started asking God.

For those of you reading this that think you have it all figured out…and you may…please take a second to realize that not everyone has had the same upbringing, life lessons or even life experience.

The Love we are Taught

ADORATION Love

This love typically is expressed when we are children. People love you and are happy with who you are and are growing to be. This love is freely given initially. You are adored and you fall in the approval of their expectations and standards. We learn to seek approval from these people in almost everything that we do because unknowingly their love is not consistent. Their love weakens and strengthens with their approval of your actions.

REACTION LOVE

Some people are born into a life where love is a consequence related to expectations. You are always under scrutiny. If you do “this” then you get approval a.k.a “love”.

PROVEN LOVE

Some people begin to experience love when another person begins to feel loved. When we naturally or even unnaturally make other people feel good an attachment is created. This attachment can grow slowly or quickly and can last a long time or a short time. The result of making someone else feel good and their reaction to us in return begins to define a feeling we call love. Often this is where preteens and teenagers begin their definition of love.

I could go on and on however for today I’d like to focus on these 3. Maybe because it’s what I experienced or perhaps it’s what I’ve seen those around me experiencing lately.

The Bible explains 3 types of love…of course, a great study and you absolutely should learn them. However, this is not the focus of today’s writing. What I’d like to focus on is the realization that perhaps what we “know” about love may not be the absolute truth.
Think about situations you may have been in or are currently in. Do they fall into the top 3 categories? What happens when you fall out of their expectations? Do you foresee this love changing? Have you experienced this Love alter? Does it seem to have a rating? Perhaps sometimes they love you a little bit, sometimes a lot. Sometimes you are teetering on the love-meter and at any point, you may tip into the unloved side for a little while. Does your definition of love state that it is consistent? Should it weaken and strengthen? Does love always have the same definition in your life? Should it?

I define Love as unwavering

I can tell you what I do know. I know that Gods definition of Love is unconditional, everlasting and unwavering. I know that experiencing Unconditional Love in this world is nearly impossible. I also know that God helps to transform our understanding of Love when we ask Him.

I ask God to teach me what His design of Love is. I continue to ask because every experience requires new understanding and new faith and new love. 

know that if we continue to seek Gods guidance in how to love others and love ourselves then amazing things will happen both inside us and around us. 

Above all, Love others deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins

-1 Peter 4:8

I pray that right now God helps you see the difference between this worlds definition of Love and His design of Love. I pray that this revelation awakens your spirit and overcomes the hurt you have faced in the past. I pray God reveals to you how He loves you and a deep inner knowing of who you begin to ingrain a new design of Love for your life. In Jesus name, I pray these things. Amen